Happy Monday lovelies.
Spring break has come and passed in a flash. But, I’ll have you know that my team, the Bonnies are doing fantastically in basketball recently. They are killing it left and right. This weekend they’re headed to Brooklyn to play in the A-10 tournament and fingers crossed they make it into the NCAA tournament 🙂
But, enough about sports, let’s get down to brass tax, relationships.
We have returned this Monday to focus on sadness. Not a super happy way to start a week, but I promise this singer has more in store.
This weeks’ sad song is song by none other than the poster child for sad songs herself Avril Lavigne, it is:
My Happy Ending
This song starts out repeating the title multiple times “So much for my happy ending”, just to make sure you understand that the title is false and it isn’t a happy story as some might have thought.
“Let’s talk this over
It’s not like we’re dead
Was it something I did?
Was it something you said?
Don’t leave me hanging
In a city so dead
Held up so high
On such a breakable thread (breakable thread)”
At this point in the relationship she has “lost” him, but she still thinks she can get him back. Unless the break up ended vaguely, don’t assume that there is anything left when there is a break up. The part “it’s not like we’re dead,” is sad because going into the relationship she probably thought that it was going to be forever, and now that they are over and they are still both very much alive, it’s not as it was supposed to be.
“You were all the things I thought I knew
And I thought we could be”
This is the segway into the chorus. She accents that she thought she knew what she was getting into in the beginning of the relationship but it seems as though she were mistaken.
“You were everything, everything that I wanted (that I wanted)
We were meant to be, supposed to be but we lost it (we lost it)
And all of the memories, so close to me, just fade away
All this time you were pretending
So much for my happy ending”
The line “we were meant to be, supposed to be but we lost it,” gets me every time. The idea
that the relationship was destined to work but was ruined by the participants is slight crap. SURE, every relationship is “supposed” to work out, but I don’t know if I would be vain enough to say that I was the one that ruined something that was supposed to work. If it was actually meant to be it would have happened regardless and the people would have worked harder for it.
“You’ve got your dumb friends
I know what they say (they say)
They tell you I’m difficult
But so are they (but so are they)
But they don’t know me
Do they even know you (even know you)?
All the things you hide from me
All the shit that you do (all the shit that you do)”
Nothing, I repeat NOTHING is worse than thinking your relationship is between two people and then come to find out that their friends are pulling strings in the background. Sure, friends have a say in relationships, they can give their two cents, but ultimately it’s the two people in the relationship’s duty to decide TOGETHER what happens with the relationship, not a friend on the outside calling the shots.
“It’s nice to know that you were there
Thanks for acting like you cared
And making me feel like I was the only one
It’s nice to know we had it all
Thanks for watching as I fall
And letting me know we were done”
I love this part, because who hasn’t felt this way. Who hasn’t felt that the other person in the relationship was acting as though they actually cared about the other. It is a common paranoid thing that happens when a relationship ends. It’s automatically assumed that the person doing the breaking up didn’t care at all the entire time. Which, could be true but is more likely false.
I love this song, I really do. And Avril was my go-to girl when I was sad or angry before Taylor Swift even had her first boyfriend. It is always good to go back to the people who brought you up and taught you how to look at relationships, because they can give you new insights into a situation you thought you knew.
I just hope you get your happy ending, I’m positive it is out there for you.